Thursday, May 29, 2014

EASY IDEAS FOR AN ENJOYABLE CONVERSATION

  • Finding the other person's true interests and desires.
  • Sharing his/her consciousness....being there for some time...in the shade of the "other consciousness".
  • Addressing his/her concerns/fears/desires...even if you are disinterested in  these things...even if you dislike all these...
  • Moving from specific to general...personal to local...social to global.
  • What matters is how much you care for the relationship...with yourself...with the other and with the conversation itself.

   




Also on the same page: INSIGHTS IN CONVERSATION

 





Some more thoughts on CONVERSATIONS

" Nobody listens with the intent of listening, but with the intent of plugging their own story. A conversation which feels like a relay race is a total turn off. A conversation needs to flow like two rivers, intermingling with each other, sharing experiences, co-creating meaning in doing so. That is why I don’t enjoy being a part of a conversation, unless I am really interested in what you have to say, coz am all ears y’know. And I can’t pour my thoughts out unless I know what I say matters. If you can’t improve the silence then STFU, is my mantra." ....
Words from "toblog-with love" 

Some more from GOOGLE SEARCH:

 




TO BE CONTINUED...

Friday, May 9, 2014

A JOB INTERVIEW




(Interviews are formal conversations  about our Personal, Educational, Family and Career details to be shared with the interviewer.)

Here I is the interviewer and C is the Candidate.

C: May I come in sir?
I: Yes, Please do.
C: Good afternoon sir
I: A very good afternoon to you...please be seated.
C: Thank you sir...
I: So how are you young man?
C: I am fine indeed sir and ...thank you for asking.
I: Well....your name is?
C: I am Raj Mohan.
I: And you are from which place here....?
C: I am from Kozhikode....the exact place is called Balussery.
I:  Who all are there in your family, Mr. Raj?
C: I stay with my parents and a younger sister. My father runs a small grocery shop and mother is a homemaker, sister is a student in GVHSS Balussery.
I:  OK... now coming directly to this interview let me ask you this question....do you have any kind of experience in this field of Student Counselling?
C: Sir I have taken a few classes for undergraduate students and also done counselling as well as marketing for a management institute in Calicut city.
I: (looking into the resume) And your qualification is B.Com and anything else...?
C: Sir besides having a B.Com degree with 65 % marks from Calicut University I also have a Post Graduate Diploma in Management from IGNOU.
I: Fine....Now listen Mr. Rajmohan ...this job requires a lot of people skills like co-ordination, motivation and training and also appraisal. Are you confident and competent in all these areas?
C: I am extremely confident and enthusiastic about this job sir...In fact I have also worked as a management trainee for an educational firm while doing my IGNOU course as mentioned in my CV sir.
 I: Yeah...I can see it here...for ABC International right?
C: Yes sir. That's right.
I(studying the CV for a minute and then deciding  on something): Now tell me Mr. Raj, are you ready to undergo a training programme in Chennai for three days starting from tomorrow? 
C:With pleasure sir.
I: OK..In that case you can take leave now and prepare yourself for tomorrow's programme. The company will take care of your journey to the programme venue but you should be here by as early as... I would say 8.30 am...Will that be alright with you?
C: Perfectly alright sir...
I: And do remember... your position in this organisation will be decided by our Director after the training sessions get over....so be there in body, mind and spirit, hundred and one percent.
C: I will sir and thank you very much for all your help and guidance. It was a real pleasure interacting with you.
I: You are welcome always Mr Raj....
C: Good Bye sir.
I: Good Bye ....see you tomorrow.



Thursday, May 8, 2014

EC FLUENCY


Fluency in English or any other language is not just about asking or answering questions...it's more than that. In fact fluency is actually sustaining a speech, conversation, discussion, interview, a paragraph, an essay etc. It is making a combination of sentences to give opinions, views, to argue, to express, to voice our thoughts etc. So unless we have a wide range of sentences at our command plus a good vocabulary plus a nice awareness of things happening around fluency will not come easily to us. Given below is the fluency chart to give us a summary of all the different types of sentences, of the most basic type, essential in any conversation.

FLUENCY CHART

  

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Be a Sachin Tendulkar of English Communication(EC)

What do you think makes Tendulkar one of the greatest batsmen in Indian cricket?
One of the reasons can be : He has a very wide range of shots.  Another reason can be: He can select the right shot for the right ball.
So there are two things that make Sachin one of the best batsmen: range of shots and the right shot.
Now what do you think makes a person a good communicator in English?
He/she should have a wide range of sentences. Another reason is: He/she should be able to select the right sentence in a given context.


1  PRESENT STATE (am/is/are)
2  PAST STATE (was/were)
3  FUTURE STATE (will be)
4  PRESENT STATE + TIME PERIOD (have/has been)
5  PRESENT POSSESSION (have)
6  PAST POSSESSION (had)
7  FUTURE POSSESSION (will have)
8  PRESENT REALITY (There is)
9  PAST REALITY (There was)
10  FUTURE REALITY (There will be)
11  PRESENT HABITS (I read it daily)
12  PRESENT ATTITUDES (I like reading)
13  PRESENT LIVE ACTIONS
(I am reading it now)
14  FUTURE ACTIONS IN PRESENT
 (I am reading it later)
15  PAST ACTIONS IN PRESENT                    (I have read it)
16 PRESENT LIVE ACTIONS + TIME PERIOD (I have been reading it for an hour)
17 PAST ACTIONS IN PAST
(I read it today)
18  LIVE ACTIONS IN PAST
(I was reading it today)
19  FUTURE ACTIONS IN FUTURE
(I will read it today)
20  LIVE ACTIONS IN FUTURE
(I will be reading it today)
21 PASSIVE (HABITS and ATTITUDES)
(It is read / liked by us)
22  PASSIVE(PRESENT LIVE and FUTURE ACTIONS)
(It is being taught now / tomorrow)
23 PASSIVE(PAST ACTIONS IN PRESENT) (It has been taught)
24 PASSIVE (PAST ACTIONS IN PAST)
(It was taught yesterday)
25 PASSIVE (LIVE ACTIONS IN PAST)
(It was being taught yesterday)
26 PASSIVE (FUTURE ACTIONS IN FUTURE)
(It will be taught)
27  CAN (I can do it)
28  COULD (I could do it)
29  WILL / SHALL (I shall do it)
30  WOULD (I would do it)
31  USED TO (I used to do it)
32 HAVE TO (I have to do it)
33  NEED TO                        (I need to do it
34  OUGHT TO (I ought to do it)
35  MAY (I may do it)
36  MIGHT (I might do it)
37  MUST (I must do it)
38  SHOULD (I should do it)
39 I will have done it by today.
40 It has been a long class.

Wednesday, May 7, 2014

Secrets to Speak Good English


These are the 5 secrets:

1. Learning the Logic of making English sentences......because you need the Conscious Mind while speaking.

2. Learning Commonly used EC structures.......because you need the Sub-Conscious Mind while speaking.

3. Learning Verbs...because English is a Verbal language.

4. Learning Pronunciation and Politeness....because English is used as a formal language by many people.

5. Learning New Words...because English is an Idiomatic language.

So this means that there are no shortcuts to speak good English...just perfect practice to make things perfect.

5 more secrets...

To speak in English:Just Speaking practice is not enough. You should:

1.Listen a lot…Keep Listening….with patience.

2.Read a lot…Keep reading…with interest.

3.Write your thoughts…and share your writings.

4.Think in English…about the events of the day.

5.Speak to friends in both English and your mother tongue…be multilingual…not monolingual.

So .....go ahead and give your thoughts the power of EC(English Communication).

Also remember the 5-STAGES IN COMMUNICATION:


1.Having the CONSCIOUSNESS...being AWARE...showing CONCERN for an issue.

2.Thinking of the CONTENT (MESSAGE).

3.Understanding the CONTEXT and CUSTOMIZING your content.

4.Using NON-VERBAL COMMUNICATION.

5.Using VERBAL COMMUNICATION.
(And Verbal communication includes LANGUAGES: LOCAL,NATIONAL,INTERNATIONAL)

So...this will give you an idea about how important different stages are in the communication process.

Some thoughts on April 16, the World Voice Day. 
According to voice experts speaking at a rapid pace can be harmful. So is speaking loud.

According to speech therapists, people who are prone to voice abuse are mostly newsreaders, teachers, politicians, musicians and advocates.

TO BE CONTINUED...

Tuesday, May 6, 2014

THE FIVE POINT APPROACH IN LEARNING AND TEACHING EC (ENGLISH COMMUNICATION)

You need to understand the importance of these five things to learn and train, practice and teach EC skills:


1.LOGIC OF ENGLISH SENTENCES
2.STRUCTURE OF ENGLISH SENTENCES
3.HOW TO USE VERBS
4.POLITE EXPRESSIONS
5.PRONUNCIATION AND VOCABULARY

 TO BE CONTINUED...

Sunday, May 4, 2014

EC CONVERSATION PRACTICE

This table can be used for CONVERSATIONAL PRACTICE.Can you guess how? 

I am 



I am not



I have



I don’t have



I like



I dislike



I believe in



I don’t believe in



I do (habits)



I don’t do



I have done (experience)



I haven’t done



I will (future action)



I will not



I will be (future state)



I will not be



I will have (future possession)



I will not have



I was (past state)



I wasn’t



I have been (a position held)



I haven’t been



I can (ability)



I cannot



I should (duty)



I shouldn’t



I can be



I cannot be



I can have



I cannot have



I should be



I should not be



I would like to have



I would like to be



I would like to do



I may




TO BE CONTINUED...